Why I Blocked You

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A person who stops communicating with negative people is generally

someone prioritizing their mental health, emotional well-being, and personal growth. They are often

proactive about protecting their energy and curating their environment for positivity.

Here is a breakdown of the characteristics and motivations of such a person:

Core Characteristics & Traits

Boundary-Conscious: They understand the necessity of setting limits on what they will tolerate, refusing to get sucked into "negative emotional tornadoes".
Emotionally Intelligent & Aware:They recognize when their own energy is being drained and understand that negativity can be contagious.
Self-Protective: They treat their peace of mind as a priority, acting to prevent stress from impacting their mental and physical health.
Solution-Oriented: They prefer to focus on progress, goals, and positivity rather than wallowing in problems.
Empathetic but Firm: They may understand why a person is negative (trauma, habit, insecurity) but choose not to enable that behavior at their own expense.

Why They Stop Communicating

To Preserve Energy: They realize that constantly dealing with complaints, criticism, and cynicism is exhausting.
To Maintain Positivity: They aim to avoid taking on the negative qualities they resent in others.
To Avoid Toxic Dynamics: They recognize "energy vampires" who try to drag others down into their drama.
To Focus on Their Own Life: They want to pursue their goals without discouragement or distraction.

In short, this person is not necessarily mean; they are simply choosing self-preservation over enabling dysfunction.

But What About Blocking Family Members?

Yes, it is perfectly okay to block, distance yourself from, or cut ties with negative or toxic family members

to protect your mental health, emotional safety, and personal peace. Blocking is not an act of pettiness or immaturity, but a necessary boundary and a form of self-care to prevent ongoing harm and abuse.

I know a lot about this because I've faced backlash for blocking my own children. Here is a breakdown of why and how to handle this situation:

Prioritize Your Well-being: If interactions with a relative leave you feeling drained, stressed, or hurt, you have the right to remove them from your life.
Boundaries are Necessary: Blocking is a clear, firm boundary. It signifies that you no longer permit them to damage your peace, whether through phone calls, messages, or social media.
Not All Family is "Family": Toxic behavior is unacceptable, regardless of whether it comes from a relative. You have no obligation to endure toxicity solely because of shared DNA.
Alternatives to Blocking: If you are not ready to go "no contact," you can try setting strict limits on interaction, such as limited phone calls or using what they call the "Grey Rock method" (being uninteresting and unengaged) to reduce the impact of their behavior.
Protecting Your Children: If a family member is toxic, it is particularly important to stop them from damaging your children, ensuring they do not grow up in a harmful environment.

Deciding to block a family member is a personal choice aimed at ensuring you are not treated as "less than" and that you can live a healthier life. Fortunately, I've never had to permanently or completely block my loved ones. I usually will allow limited access to me until I feel they'll be able to respect my boundaries. There's never any love lost, only privileges. My advice to you is to stand firm with your decision to do this, especially when it's for the right reasons. Don't let anyone bully you or guilt you into not doing what's in the best interest of your mental health. We all deserve peace.