Sally b. Waller
Feb 14, 20214 min
Updated: Feb 27, 2021
Together over twenty years, he proposed to me on Valentines Day and Iām confident that we will be together til death. I hope we grow old together. Iām absolutely positive thereās no other man on earth that is more perfect for me. Iām still in disbelief that after all weāve been through, weāre still here, still in love and still laughing. Stepping out on each other was never an option we just always knew itās us against the world and together weāre unstoppable. So hereās what I got for ya...
Well when we first meet a man we may play hard to get, right? Thats when you do sh*t like not call him right away or let him call you first. Act like youāre busy on Tuesday but you may be able to squeeze him in on Friday š. And you gotta look absolutely delicious when he sees you so he knows you got options...yeah sh*t like that lol. I may need some of yāall singles to help me present some āhard to getā moves for a future blog. I been off the market so long and my playa card expired lol.
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Now Iām the queen of playing hard to keep tho lol. I wanna keep this blog short and plus Rodney might see this and find out I been playing games so I can only share a few right quick. Shhhh...
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Start a petty argument once a month. Iāll go sleep in the guest room until he begs me to come back. Of course I try to stay mad as long as I can because the making up part is so much better after the waiting game lol. Youāll be floating on air til you find something petty to fight about next month. Make sure you plan it. Put it on the calendar each month š. I been doing that for 20 years yāal!
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Okay one more...During football season when he disappears in the mancave for months, sometimes I get lonely. So to remind him that Iām āhard to keepā I wait til he comes to bed, I turn away and ignore him and then I go to YouTube and play, āI Wanna Knowā by Joe ( https://youtu.be/dJ8VjyPw0qY ) Thatāll give him something to think about š.
Now hereās a few other things that have worked in my marriage. My 1st marriage was so horrible. There was so much disrespect. When I married Rodney I decided that I would never call him out his name or treat him the way I was treated. I love loving him. Itās my favorite thing to do!
1. Feed the ego with compliments. No-matter how long yāall been together always remind him of how awesome he is, how much you love his āpackageā, how good he smells or how strong and brave he is. Let him know that in your eyes nobody does it better and by āitā I mean what ever āitā is that heās doing at that moment or that heās done EVER that impressed you. Be sincere and genuine so he knows you mean it every single time you say it. Be sporadic when it comes to the timing of all of this. Saying and doing the same thing at the same date and time all the time gets stale. Donāt be so predictable. One reason feeding the ego often is important is because it balances out the times when yāall pluck each otherās nerves, truth be told.
2. The word LOVE is over used. You donāt need to say it every moment of every day but you do need to find a way to show it as often as you can throughout the day. In other words find other ways to communicate your love to him so that when you actually say it it feels special. Weāve gone a few days without actually saying it but it never feels that way and then for him to hear it on a Monday and then again on Wednesday or Thursday it really stands out. Only exception is when theyāre headed out on a trip or long drive or to do something potentially dangerous...God forbid heās in an accident you want love to be the last thing he felt. I hate to think about that.
3. Pray for him and let him know about the prayer you said for him sometimes...not all the time but every once and awhile so he knows your love for him is divine. Something about knowing someone prayed for you or is rooting for your success feels amazing.
4. People on social media that have never met my husband know heās an amazing man. I post about him and my kids pretty often. Sometimes they ask me, āhowās Mr. Rodney?ā or if they see me cuttin up theyāll say, āRodneyās gonna get you! šā. I like that they see us as a solid unit and as a relatable family they can laugh with. We enjoy being your extended family. Now Iām known for posting funny videos and stuff. My public interactions are carefully planned with plenty of consideration and respect for the part of my personal life I choose to keep quiet about. I donāt expect everyone to share the kinda stuff I share but at the very least, mention something great about your man from time to time even if itās just to let him know how proud you are.
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So those are some of the things that come to mind at the moment. Iām kinda sleepy now. Later I may update this post as I think of more things to include. Now scroll up to that YouTube link and listen to Joe š. Yours in music! š¶
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